1) Gentle Warm‑Ups & Curiosity

1. What small moment from this week quietly meant a lot to you, and why?

2. In what spaces do you feel most yourself lately?

3. What’s something you’ve been thinking about that you haven’t said out loud yet?

4. What kind of support feels most nourishing to you these days?

5. When do you feel the most at ease around me, and what makes that possible?

6. What’s a value you’ve been living by recently, and how has it guided you?

7. Which daily ritual has become surprisingly important to you?

8. What’s a boundary you’ve honored for yourself that you feel proud of?

9. What are you learning about yourself this season?

10. What would make our everyday life feel 5% lighter this month?

2) Daily Check‑Ins & Feelings

1. What emotion has visited you most often this week, and what has it been asking for?

2. When you feel stressed, what signals should I look for and how can I respond?

3. How do you like to be comforted when things are hard. Words, touch, space, or something else?

4. What’s one thing I can say that reliably helps you feel understood?

5. What do you need more of and less of from me right now?

6. What recent misunderstanding between us still needs a little repair?

7. When did you feel seen by me recently, and what made it land?

8. How do you want me to check in during a busy day so it feels connecting, not intrusive?

9. What’s a worry you’re carrying that we could carry together?

10. What helps you shift from “doing mode” into “being with me” mode?

3) Personal Histories & Love Maps

1. What chapter of your life shaped you most, and how can I honor that history?

2. Who were your models for love and conflict growing up, and what did you learn from them?

3. What’s a childhood joy you’d like to bring back into our life?

4. Which past challenge made you stronger, and how can I support that strength today?

5. What traditions from your family do you want to keep, adapt, or retire?

6. What did affection look like in your home, and what do you wish it had looked like?

7. What’s a story about you that you want me to know more deeply?

8. How did you learn to express anger or disappointment, and what would you like to do differently now?

9. Who believed in you at a key moment, and how did that change you?

10. What early dream have you never quite let go of?

4) Values, Beliefs & Meaning

1. What does a “good life” mean to you this year, not in general?

2. Which values feel most alive for you right now, and where do you feel pulled between them?

3. How does spirituality, religion, or meaning-making show up for you in everyday moments?

4. What role do service, community, or contribution play in your sense of purpose?

5. When do you feel most aligned with your integrity in our relationship?

6. What kind of couple do you want us to be known as, and why?

7. How do you want us to navigate differences in beliefs with respect and curiosity?

8. What’s one ethical line that really matters to you that I should understand better?

9. In what ways can I help you grow into the person you want to become?

10. What does “safety” in our relationship look, sound, and feel like to you?

5) Appreciation, Affection & Gratitude

1. What’s something small I do that feels like love for you?

2. How do you like appreciation expressed: words, gifts, acts, touch, quality time, surprises?

3. What compliments feel the most genuine to you, and why?

4. What kind of physical affection helps you relax and open up?

5. When do you feel most cherished in our everyday routine?

6. What’s a love language you’re curious to explore more intentionally with me?

7. Which of my strengths do you lean on, and how does it help you?

8. What do you wish I knew about how to encourage you?

9. What kind of acknowledgment do you want after you do something hard?

10. If we created a “gratitude ritual,” what would it include?

6) Intimacy, Desire & Pleasure

1. What helps you feel emotionally ready for physical intimacy?

2. What turns your curiosity on mentally, emotionally, and physically?

3. How do you like initiation to look so it feels inviting, not pressured?

4. What boundaries or preferences would help our intimacy feel safer and freer?

5. What kind of aftercare helps you feel connected post‑intimacy?

6. How do stress, sleep, or hormones influence your desire, and how can we adapt?

7. What new experiences or sensations are you open to exploring together?

8. What messages about sexuality did you get growing up, and what do you want to rewrite?

9. How can we talk about mismatched desire with kindness and collaboration?

10. What does “making love” mean to you beyond the physical?

7) Conflict, Repair & Boundaries

1. How do you know an argument is starting in your body, and what early repair helps?

2. What do you need from me during conflict to stay regulated?

3. How should we pause or take breaks so conversations don’t spiral?

4. What’s a recurring snag between us, and what fresh experiment could we try?

5. When I’ve hurt you, what kind of apology feels sincere and complete?

6. What repair have we done well that we could repeat next time?

7. Where do you need firmer boundaries from me, others, or from yourself?

8. What topics feel “loaded,” and how might we make them safer together?

9. What signals tell you a conflict is truly resolved?

10. What would a fair‑fighting agreement between us include?

8) Fun, Play & Adventures

1. What kind of play lights you up the most? Competitive, creative, physical, or silly?

2. If we had a free weekend, how would you love to spend it together?

3. What’s a micro‑adventure we could do in the next two weeks?

4. What music, art, or film do you want to share with me and why?

5. What hobby or skill would you like us to learn together?

6. What kind of date feels most connecting to you these days?

7. What trip would feed your soul right now, Name a place, pace, and purpose?

8. How can we bring more laughter into our routines?

9. What’s a tradition we could start that future‑us will thank us for?

10. If we made a “joy list,” what goes on it first?

9) Finances, Work & Home Life

1. What does financial peace mean to you at this stage of life?

2. How do you want us to make spending and saving decisions together?

3. What tradeoffs feel worth it or not worth it with work and family time?

4. How can our home better reflect what we value and enjoy?

5. What roles or chores feel imbalanced, and how can we reset them fairly?

6. How do you want to talk about big purchases so it feels collaborative?

7. What career dreams are stirring, and how can I champion them?

8. What would simplify our weekly routines?

9. How would you like to navigate money stress as a team?

10. What does generosity look like for us?

10) Dreams, Growth & Future Vision

1. What are you growing toward personally this year, and how can I support you?

2. Who are we becoming as a couple, and what habits will get us there?

3. What would an ideal year together include? Name experiences, milestones, and dreams.

4. What fears show up when you imagine our future, and how can I help soften them?

5. What legacy of love do you want us to leave for the people around us?

6. How do you want to be celebrated on big and small occasions?

7. If we wrote a “couple mission statement,” what lines would it have?

8. What relationship skill do you most want to strengthen next?

9. What would make our intimacy feel deeper and more secure six months from now?

10. If future‑us could send advice back to us today, what would we say?