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In My Eyes Understanding My Partner’s Sex Addiction & Hidden Behaviors (Free E-Book)
A licensed marriage and family therapist-designed guide that helps partners move from shock and chaos to clarity and next steps—understand sex addiction, set boundaries, calm your nervous system, and decide what you need.
Full description
Finding out about a partner’s secret sexual behaviors can feel like the ground disappeared beneath you. In My Eyes was created for you—the partner—so you’re no longer invisible in the recovery story. Written by California Couples Counseling clinicians, this workbook explains sex addiction in plain language, validates your experience, and gives you practical tools to stabilize, set healthy boundaries, and make informed decisions about your relationship.
Inside, you’ll learn how the addiction cycle works, why family dynamics and shame keep patterns alive, and how to replace reactivity with skills that protect your well-being. Use it on your own, with a trusted support person, or alongside therapy or intensives.
What’s inside (highlights)
What am I feeling? Normalize shock, devastation, anger, anxiety, and dissociation—why your body reacts the way it does.
Sex addiction 101 & the cycle (triggers → craving → ritual → acting out → crash → promises).
Family dynamics & roles (caretaker, hero, scapegoat, lost child, clown) and how they shape today’s patterns.
Understanding shame (healthy vs. toxic) and evidence-based ways to interrupt it.
Boundaries & bottom lines: step-by-step templates to define limits and consequences that protect you.
Emotional regulation & coping skills: grounding, cognitive tools, connection, expression, movement, and self-compassion.
Next steps with California Couples Counseling: when individual or couples therapy—or a 3–6 hour/1–3 day intensive—can help.
Who it’s for
Partners reeling from discovery or disclosure
Anyone feeling stuck in hyper-vigilance, blame, or confusion
Spouses who need clear language for boundaries and a plan
A supportive companion to therapy, groups, or intensives
How to use it
Set aside 2–4 hours (or pace it over a few evenings). Start with the feelings section, then move to boundaries and bottom lines. Revisit the coping skills whenever symptoms spike. Bring your notes to therapy for momentum.
Format & delivery
Digital download (PDF, US Letter)
Instant access after purchase
Therapist-friendly for session work
A licensed marriage and family therapist-designed guide that helps partners move from shock and chaos to clarity and next steps—understand sex addiction, set boundaries, calm your nervous system, and decide what you need.
Full description
Finding out about a partner’s secret sexual behaviors can feel like the ground disappeared beneath you. In My Eyes was created for you—the partner—so you’re no longer invisible in the recovery story. Written by California Couples Counseling clinicians, this workbook explains sex addiction in plain language, validates your experience, and gives you practical tools to stabilize, set healthy boundaries, and make informed decisions about your relationship.
Inside, you’ll learn how the addiction cycle works, why family dynamics and shame keep patterns alive, and how to replace reactivity with skills that protect your well-being. Use it on your own, with a trusted support person, or alongside therapy or intensives.
What’s inside (highlights)
What am I feeling? Normalize shock, devastation, anger, anxiety, and dissociation—why your body reacts the way it does.
Sex addiction 101 & the cycle (triggers → craving → ritual → acting out → crash → promises).
Family dynamics & roles (caretaker, hero, scapegoat, lost child, clown) and how they shape today’s patterns.
Understanding shame (healthy vs. toxic) and evidence-based ways to interrupt it.
Boundaries & bottom lines: step-by-step templates to define limits and consequences that protect you.
Emotional regulation & coping skills: grounding, cognitive tools, connection, expression, movement, and self-compassion.
Next steps with California Couples Counseling: when individual or couples therapy—or a 3–6 hour/1–3 day intensive—can help.
Who it’s for
Partners reeling from discovery or disclosure
Anyone feeling stuck in hyper-vigilance, blame, or confusion
Spouses who need clear language for boundaries and a plan
A supportive companion to therapy, groups, or intensives
How to use it
Set aside 2–4 hours (or pace it over a few evenings). Start with the feelings section, then move to boundaries and bottom lines. Revisit the coping skills whenever symptoms spike. Bring your notes to therapy for momentum.
Format & delivery
Digital download (PDF, US Letter)
Instant access after purchase
Therapist-friendly for session work